Encouraging Someone In Pain
By romantic | July 2, 2009
Take a few minutes to read this article if you are trying to help someone who is in pain due to the loss of a loved one, break-up, divorce or what ever type of pain.
In some instances it may feel like there is no need to share encouraging words to someone who is in pain. In most cases when youshare some inspirational words of encouragement the grieving person may seem to reject them while continuing to indulge in the painful feeling.
Irrespective of the the way the person decides to react to the situation, every hurting person needs to to be exposed inspiring words. Relaying such words is more like planting a seed. In the beginning it may seem like there is nothing happening to the seed but when you unwearyingly water it ultimately something will turn up.
Likewise when you try to help someone get through a bad situation, do not just give up at the first try even if you don’t see any positive results at first. Don’t stop sharing words of encouragement for Christians if you are dealing with a religious person and don’t even think about giving up.
If wound is new, then you really need to hand in there and give it your best shot. Exercise some patience and understanding. Do not try and set a time table for the person to get over what ever it is he or she is grieving for – depending on the extent of the pain or disappointment.
I had a friend who lost a loved one once and it took more than two years to start talking about her without crying. One day he told me how the positive things we kept saying to him helped hime to move on eventually. We didn’t know we were making that kind of an impact at the time.
So if you feel like it is not important to keep writing letter of encouragement to friend or loved one always remember that they are helping him or her to live through each passing day. Just continue with patience and understanding and it may be you are the reason why the grieving person is able to live through another day.
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What If Your Partner Will Not Agree To Relationship Counseling?
By romantic | July 2, 2009
Relationship counseling is often a the last resort for couples on the brink of the divorce.Some couples try counseling early on when the first problems rear their heads. Getting help is certainly something that a couple shouldn’t be afraid to try, even if the problems are relatively minor.iVery often, catching small problems early with counseling can prevent bigger problems down the road. Early counseling can even sometimes prevent a future divorce, and if the two of you have already parted can help you win wife back.
Today’s couples seem more eager to try to new things, therefore counseling is a good option. Couples married years ago seem less likely to go for counseling or try new approaches, perhaps because it wasn’t something commonly done when they were younger. Very often marriages of 30 or 40 years now end in divorce, which is a shame because they’ll never know if relationship counseling could have helped save the union.
If you feel like you need relationship counseling, be sure to have your partner to go to counseling with you in a non-judgmental way.If you ask him or her to go to counseling in such a way as it seems like you are accusing them of being the problem and needing counseling, you are likely to encounter resistance to the idea.Give it your best to make it clear that you want the counseling for yourself if nothing else.
If you ask your partner to go to counseling because you have some issues you need to work on, they’re more likely to view the idea favorably.Explain that you think you need some help to be able to contribute more to the relationship, and to learn how to be a better spouse.Don’t accuse the other person of needing counseling.Even if you believe that they are most of the problem, don’t come out and say that.Once you’re in relationship counseling, they will learn tips and techniques for being better within the relationship, just as you intend.
Do not be afraid to suggest relationship counseling, whether you’ve been in the relationship for 3 months, 3 years or two decades.It’s never too late to try ask for assistance to resolve problems.And it’s never too late to try to keep small problems from becoming out of control ones ones. If the relationship is relatively new, you might think that you’re admitting to problems and admitting that the relationship is rocky by suggesting counseling.But that is not true.But facing any hurddles now, you’re making the relationship stronger in the long run. Many men have also claimed that agreeing to counseling helped them to win back ex wife!
If your husband or wife believes that your suggestion of relationship counseling means that the relationship isn’t perfect, and maybe even is doomed, calmly explain that that isn’t true.Just because you’re willing to admit that everything is perfect shows that you’re willing to make necessary adjustments to keep the other person and yourself happy.
If the love of your life refuses, go on your own.While having help will be best if both of you go, you can go and work on things to improve yourself. If your partner sees that you are going to relationship counseling, they’re more likely to give it a try. Don’t wait to take action to make ex want you back.
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Know The Fact About Divorce Custody Law - It Can Never Be A Case Of One Rule Fits All
By romantic | July 2, 2009
Divorce is deeply traumatic to everyone involved, not just the husband and wife who wish to separate. All children born from that marriage will be affected and that is why provision must be made for them. Human beings are each different and our circumstances differ greatly. Therefore it is not possible to have a single stipulated divorce custody law that can cover every unique case.
If this was possible, most divorce attorneys would be out of a job. Instead, divorce custody law is seen as a blanket that covers all the issues pertaining to custody. It is under this blanket that each issue has to be addressed separately as each case presents itself. Divorce custody law has as its ultimate goal to work in the best interests of the child or children. This means that throughout the whole divorce process where there are children involved, the divorce custody law will make provision for the children as first responsibility, not the parents.
Divorce Custody Law: Children Are The Top Priority
Divorce custody law has changed radically over the past decades. There was a time when children were automatically seen as the property of the father with no room for negotiation. As time went on it became clear that most often children would fare better being placed with their mother. Here again divorce custody law was amended. The world and how issues are addressed has undergone many changes and it is within this modern framework that divorce custody law now functions.
The norm is that under common statutory provision both parents have equal right and joint guardianship of children born in that marriage after a divorce. Unhappily the norm is not always the best for the child or children. In such cases divorce custody law can be applied in such a way that there is the choice of several types of child custody. During the divorce process it will be looked at whether temporary custody should be awarded until after the finalization of the divorce.
Then it will be decided whether exclusive custody to one parent is advisable or whether joint custody will be the most beneficial to the child or children. Divorce custody law also makes provision that custody could be awarded to a third party. The court will consider the needs of both the parents and the requirements of the child too. In the end a decision will be made through divorce custody law that is in the best interests of the child. This includes the child’s wellbeing in the home and community, schooling and religious education as well as his or her physical health and mental wellbeing.
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We All Can Do With Some Dating Tips
By romantic | July 2, 2009
It doesn’t matter if you are new to the dating scene, or if you’ve been meeting new people for awhile, there are tips that can help make your dating experience better. when dating our emotions are engaged and being rejected online can be as devastating as being rejected in person. Try to remember that dating is supposed to be a fun experience and don’t take everything to heart. Their are ideas here that you can use to attract desirable singles and to help you develop the right meetings into relationships. Not every date will lead to a relationship, but there are steps you can use to help it along.
Old fashioned Common Sense
Common sense may be an oxymoron since so few people exercise it. No matter if you are young or old, average or stunning, not every date will turn out the way you might like. The attraction has to there for both people for the date to be successful. If either person isn’t feeling it, the date is going nowhere. These dating tips will help if you both feel an attraction, and it will help you avoid any obvious turn offs at your initial meeting.
The saying goes that you never get a second chance to make a first impression, and its especially true when you are meeting a date for the first time. Prepare for your date, just as you might prepare for an important job interview. It is a sign of courtesy and good manners to put your best foot forward when meeting new people. You don’t have to transform yourself into someone else, just be the best you that you can be. Take the time to make yourself feel confident in your own appearance.
Next, you should purchase some appropriate clothing and even go for a makeover to ensure that your image is perfect and one that is flattering to you. The person you date will definitely appreciate it if you are well dressed and look your best. Other useful dating tips include identifying what you want from your dating experience, surrounding you with people that will help you with your dating, being realistic about what to expect and to also spare a thought to what others expect off you.
The way you dress makes a statement about the image you have of yourself. Ladies who are meeting someone for the first time should avoid clothing that is too sexy or revealing. It probably doesn’t make the appropriate statement. Choose something flatering, but not blatant. Gentlemen should dress neatly even for casual first dates. Clean shaven or neatly trimmed facial hair looks better than stubble, which tells your date you didn’t care enough to shave. Use cologne sparingly and don’t wear a lot of flashy jewelry.
Even though online dating is all the rage these days it is not very easy to succeed with it. Your first date could end up being very awkward and your second date may not be any better. It is therefore necessary to learn from available online dating tips just how to succeed in this form of dating. Acts such as calling too often or not often enough can ruin your online dating; use tips that will show you how not to make such elementary mistakes.
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Play the Dating Game and Win
By romantic | July 2, 2009
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction RelationshipAdvisor, writes… …
Lots of people get back into the dating game with trepidation. In the first installment of Dating Consciously, the dating advice I shared was I asked … “What if I could show you how to get clear on your intentions before you wade through the muck and mire of the dating scene”? I also said that “Your thoughts create your reality and if that’s so, wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?”
In Part Two, I’ll go more deeply into the aspects of playing where everyone wins. Play with Passion and Purpose. Dating is a game you can re-write the rules at any time. To play the Dating Consciously game, you need to know that:
1. You are playing a game
2. You willingly decide that it will be fun (because you created it as a game for that purpose), and
3. There are no winners or losers
Remeber when you played tag or hide and seek? You could play for hours and hours. Simple, and sheer innocence. Try to access that innocence just for a moment right now.
Why have so many of us lost it? In the previous paragraph notice how quickly it returned - if just for a moment - but it did return! You create that kind of ease and joy by simply remember it into being. You pretend it into existence, you play it into reality for the sake of playing. And guess what? Your energy shifts so quickly to that light and high vibration, that unless you negate it with old patterns, you become very attractive. You’re energy is literally calling out to like energy to play with it.
The 2 Biggest Stoppers to Dating Consciously
1. Fear of failure/rejection
2. Fear of looking bad/not enough
1. The fear of failure is very human Try on innocence and play full out. Just try it and see how different it feels. Nobody is out to take something from you that you’re not willing to give.] Certainly, there may be different expectations from your date. There’s nothing wrong with that. Simply and clear communication can handle that. Believe me, you’re going to have different expections and points of compatibility. If you didn’t, you’d get awfully bored of that person in a very short period of time. If you decide that you only wanted one play date, so be it. There’s no inherent rejection involved. It’s just a choice on how you or he/she prefers to spend their time. It’s just a choice not a rejection.
2. Do you have a case of the not-enoughers?
You feel that you’re just not good enough on some level. Consider that at the core, everyone has that ancient internal conversation, too. Most everyone at times feels low in self-confidence. You’re not alone here.
Send the energy in advance of your date. By that I mean to actively declare what you intend for that date. For example, “I intend to have fun and to laugh on this date. I’m going to let it be easy and light”. Now you’ve just paved an energetic pathway for your date.
Playing a game is a very differnt approach to dating. Play with passion, play full out. Purpose means deliberating intending what you’re up to. The bottom line is HAVE FUN.
The vibration of FUN is one of the highest around. Laugh and have fun. You’ll become a magnet for fun people and if you keep practicing that, eventually you’ll attract the perfect fun mate.
You can learn these tools and more with Relationship Coaching. Dating, like life, if approached as a fun game where there are no losers goes much more smoothly for everyone.
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